by: FCC Staff
Proverbs 31:11-12 “The heart of her husband trusts in her, and he will have no lack of gain. She does him good, and not harm, all the days of her life.”
Have you ever been in a relationship where you just didn’t feel you could completely trust the other person? Whether in marriage, a business partner, or business dealings, a co-worker, or even just a work or school team project? Always feeling like they’re kind of a leaky bucket, or as the Proverb relates a “bad tooth” or a “foot that slips” in which you just can’t put your full weight or confidence (Prov.25:19). When you do, more likely than not they’ll let you down or worse, betray you. Have you ever actually been betrayed? What a horrible feeling, it can really only come from those closest to you.
The contrast here is to the women referred to in verse one who have been sapping his strength in a destructive way. Keeping with the theme from our thoughts from verse 10, these women, these relationships have worked to draw him from God and thus from the embodiment of Wisdom (Proverbs 3:13-18; 9:1-6). Solomon is said to be the wisest man who ever lived, being granted that status by God himself in 1 Kings 3:12. The Psalmist writes, “the fool says in his heart, “there is no God” (14:1; 53:1). I’m certainly not saying Solomon didn’t believe in God. In fact, the beginning of his life and rule reveals he most certainly did. But his actions reveal that he sure didn’t live as though he did (1 Kings 11:1-8).
Betrayal can really only come from those closest to you. God was close to David who was a “man after God’s own heart” (Acts 13:22), and he continued that close relationship with David’s son Solomon and blessed him not just with the wisdom he requested but with great wealth and abundant blessings (1 Kings 3). But King Solomon betrays God and turns to the gods of his foreign wives and even builds alters for them right in Jerusalem near the Temple of God (1 Kings 11).
Second only to our relationship with Jesus, the closest relationship you can have in life is the one you chose as your life’s mate. Your spouse. The Queen Mother is telling him that he needs a type of wife he can trust, who does him good, and always has his best interest at heart. As the poem will continue she specifies he needs a woman of God.
She is talking about the true love of a husband and a wife. Marriage is about the heart. About love and faith. It’s not just about sexual gratification or just getting what you think you want as it seems Solomon was chasing after; he discloses in his later writings of Ecclesiastes that he never found it. It’s about loyalty, faithfulness. As an old song once put it, “Love is not a feeling, it’s an act of your will.” Willingly submitting to the others needs and lovingly protecting them in their weaknesses. Joining in their victories, embracing them in their sorrows.
There is only one who truly fits the bill of the perfect partner. Jesus is “the Friend who sticks closer than a brother” (Proverbs 18:24). Jesus said, “I have called you friends” (John 15:15). Hebrews 13:4-6 says: “Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled, for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous. Keep your life free from love of money, and be content with what you have, for he has said, ‘I will never leave you nor forsake you.’ So we can confidently say, ‘The Lord is my helper; I will not fear; what can man do to me?”’
When we have our relationship with God on a right footing, then all other relationships begin to fall into place and can have a solid foundation. If we’re not right with God, through his Son, Jesus Christ, then every other relationship begins to get out of whack. John 1:12-13 says, “But to all who did receive him, who believed in his name, he gave the right to become children of God, who were born, not of blood nor of the will of the flesh nor of the will of man, but of God.”
God loves his children and desires to bless and care for his children and to all who call on him in faith. To be his child Jesus said, you must be born again (John 3:3). The Holy Spirit is the embodiment of “Wisdom” who then dwells within the child of God. We’ve seen Solomon. What will we then do with the wisdom that comes from God—child of God? The fear of God is the beginning of wisdom (Proverbs 9:10).
Prayer for today: Father, may my heart be open to your Word and your Wisdom. I pray the things of this world not drown out or dilute in any way my love for you and your Son, Jesus Christ in whose name I pray, amen.