by: FCC Staff
“Better to live on the roof than share the house with a nagging wife.” (Proverbs 25:24)
This proverb makes it very clear that nagging can be a huge problem, especially within the boundaries of marriage. Samson was a victim of it in the OT when he allowed women to deceive and trick him into giving in to them. Nagging can be a major problem in a marriage today. “A nagging wife is like water going drip-drip-drip on a rainy day!” (Proverbs 27:15)
One of the causes of this is because men and women are wired differently. Women tend to be more verbal than men and want to solve problems, resolve conflict, and consider solutions in talking about them. Men are usually less verbal and action-oriented and don’t respond well to a woman trying to instruct them. Sometimes when a wife asks her husband to do a chore, he will consider that as her being “bossy” or “controlling” and may choose to do the project in his own time.
Nagging can become a habitual thing if we’re not careful. Boundaries and intentions must be set ahead of time so that both have the awareness of just how far each can go. A husband and wife can break the habit of nagging by recognizing what isn’t working and to establish a better understanding and relationship toward one another. In doing so they can avoid many arguments and uncomfortable situations in the future.
Paul states in Ephesian 4:29, “Do not use harmful words but only helpful words, the kind that build up and provide what is needed, so that you will do good to those who hear you.” Our marriages are a beautiful thing, but must be handled with much care and consideration as we do our best to understand one another a little better. You can do it, and with God’s help you’ll be blessed!
Prayer for today: Lord, help me to do my part in avoiding a nagging situation in my marriage. Help me to be able to clarify our boundaries and limitations before it’s needed. Amen